I am a feminist.
I didn't mean to become one. I have been reluctant to embrace it. The word feminist can hold such a negative connotation. If you have been exposed to worldviews where feminists are not advocates for equality, but "feminazis" who refuse to wear bras, you will understand. I didn't mean to become one, but, when you find yourself sitting in a church listening to one of the most misogynistic preachers week after week, you have only a few choices. You can either:
- buy into that worldview
- secretly disagree but choose to live within the confines of that worldview, or
- reject it and expose it for what it is.
In case you were wondering, I pick 3.
Here is a list of some of the more prevalent feminist stereotypes.
10. Feminists hate men
9. Feminists hate the idea of family
8. Feminists are masculine and unattractive
7. Feminists hate God
6. Feminists don't shave
5. Feminists are all pro-choice
4. Feminists can't be stay at home moms
3. Feminist whine about everything
2. Men are not feminists
1. All people who label themselves as feminist believe in the exact same things.
Here is the truth.10. I don't hate men (I am married to one).
9. I have 4 kids.
8. I don't *think* I would qualify as masculine (I am wearing pink and polka dots right now).
7. I have belief in God.
6. I shave.
5. I am pro-life (before and after birth).
4. I stay home with my children.
3. I only whine about some things.
2. I am not a man, but I know some who believe in equality for women.
1. I don't agree with all Feminists, just like I don't agree with all Christians or Democrats or Stay-At-Home-Moms.
What does the word feminist actually mean when we strip away the stereotypes?
adjective Sometimes, fem·i·nis·tic.
advocating social, political, legal, and economic rights for women equal to those of men.
an advocate of such rights.
I am a feminist and I am proud of it. I am an advocate for equality for girls and women in society, politics, education, the workplace and the church. I teach my daughter to see patriarchy and not allow herself to be limited by it. I challenge the status quo and call bullshit when I see it. I hope she will do the same.
So there you have it. The truth has set me free.